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"Any idea when you're chatting with the band?" a message pops up. "My request was to ask if I can become their newest bandmate."

However, there remains a single issue: The sender also wants to be the Haims' fourth member. And we're in plentiful company. Multiple high-profile admirers have publicly begged for the honor.

One thing is obvious an irresistible appeal is going on. Sisters Este, Danielle and Alana launched their career playing gigs at neighborhood delis with their parents. Today, they are multi-time Grammy Award hopefuls.

Similar to the most iconic groups, they're a close gang. Their visuals frequently depict them striding in harmony down the roads of Los Angeles. On stage, they perform with such unfettered exuberance you inevitably think, "I want to be part of that, too."

"The amount of times on tour that audience members approached us and said, 'Watching you live, I bought a guitar'," says Alana, the most junior of the Haim siblings. "It is the greatest honour. It is a prize in itself. We've done our job if we can motivate people to make music."

"And thus all gets an invitation to be the fourth part of the family."

Award Milestone

The trio have called into their homes, where they're recovering after an lengthy tour in promoting their new album, I Quit.

They're currently processing the news it's been in the running for a top rock honor at the Grammy Awards – with Haim the very first all-female band ever in contention for the award.

"I follow the announcements every year, so it almost feels like an out-of-body experience when your name is read out," notes Alana. "I had to call my sisters to say, 'Did I hear this right or am I hallucinating'?"

The significance of the accolade is deeply felt by the sisters.

"We truly set out to make a guitar-driven album this time, so it's a significant step," continues Alana. "Yet we're just appreciative for the women that paved the way."

Heartbreak and Candor

The album came out of a phase of personal change. All three sisters found themselves single, and the music explores that strange in-between place where you're relieved to be free, but not entirely ready to move on.

The words track departures and partings. The sisters desire love, but not the kind of love they've got. You can hear them figuring out in the moment who they aspire to be.

"I love way of putting it, yes," agrees Danielle. "I Quit is kind of like a mantra. You have to make an effort in ignoring the noise and saying, 'I couldn't care less what people think'."

Refinement of Music

That developed resilience required a new sound – more raw and powerful than any of the music the band had done before.

For Danielle, who worked on producing the album, that was founded on the drums.

"Drums are such a nuanced thing, and I care so much about it," she emphasizes.

"'Journey of the drum sound' will be the title of our book," laughs Alana. "I always say, our albums don't start until we find the right drum sound."

Experiences and Collective Laughter

The trio's candor shaped the album's marketing, where the sisters disclosed some of their romantic horror stories.

One man ended things with Este over a health concern. Alana shared a story of travelling to spend New Year's Eve with someone, only to receive a casual gesture at midnight.

"When you're going through these breakups, you just feel like there's only darkness," says Alana. "So to be able to share those stories and have them tell you more outrageous stories, it's so amazing."

A Secure Path

One can easily sense a evolution in the band. Now, Haim are more assured of their position in the music world.

They're top-billed acts, with hit albums and an worldwide audience.

Yet Haim will always be their primary focus.

"Me and my siblings have been playing music since I was a young child," shares Alana. "It feels as if no alternative that we were destined for. And I'm really thankful we've reached this point and we're still making music."